Fragments of time or “snapshots” of a moment are brief and do not give the entire picture of who a person is as a whole.

Who do you think the person standing next to you in the grocery store line is? Who do you think the person that just raced past you in the street is? Who do you think you are? Who do you think I am?

Fragments of time or “snapshots” of a moment are brief and do not give the entire picture of who a person is as a whole. If you saw me yesterday standing in line rolling my eyes at the person in front of me, or two days ago stopped by the side of the road to “rescue” a dog, or last night laughing at my husband so hard I had tears rolling down my cheeks, or yesterday arguing with my 11 year old about which binder was suitable to buy for 5th grade, these are just moments. These are not a description of who we really are. Yet, we judge each other because of them.

We can’t take in the entire picture of every single person we don’t know and craft a story about what we believe them to be about.

Judgement isn’t always about viewing someone in a negative way. It can also be creating a fantasy around their lives based on snap shots of brief moments we see. Or, more accurately, what we think we see.

How many times do we look at social media with an envy of a life that seems so perfect? The perfect family, smiling faces, perfect relationships and endless fun. Is that your constant reality? It’s definitely not mine.

Below is a photo of my son and me, being silly, not a care in the world, making memories and just being in the moment. What you can not see is how long it took to get dressed, put on our snow gear and how long it took to finally get out the door.

Before this photo was taken, we were laughing so hard at my son and his funny personality. But, after the photo, when it was time to come inside and peel off all those layers, that certainly did not consist of laughing, smiles nor was it fun. However, two very different moments not captured, so how can you think you know ALL circumstances of anyone’s life based on one picture posted on social media?

My point is this: I have purposefully designed a life that has meaning and purpose. I try to make the best of each day and create memories for my children that they will cherish into their adult years.

However, that doesn’t mean I get out of bed every day with a smile and eager to step into my “perfect” day.
I may wake feeling happy. I may wake feeling tired, anxious or depressed. Either way, I’m not defined by it.

I’m not ‘good’ and I’m not ‘bad’. I’m just a human. I feel a variety of emotions. Please don’t base your opinion on my life based on any photo I may post on any of my social media sites!

It’s not realistic to ask ourselves never to judge anyone again. To never create a story around how fabulous/awful/amazing someone is from the thirty second window from which we viewed them. But perhaps we need to keep in mind that it is just a snapshot. It may even be a series of snapshots. Perhaps a whole album. But it’s unlikely to be the whole story.

I mess up, I make mistakes and I don’t always get it right, but I no longer dwell on it. I look for the lesson and then I move on. I’m not interested in repeatedly punishing myself. How does that serve me? How does self punishment serve any of us? If we focus on acceptance and tolerance, then we can make a difference. If we focus on criticizing others, then we stay stuck and we all suffer.

Just accept that you’re going to screw up sometimes and so is everybody else. Nobody is worse than or better than you. Different, maybe, but that’s OK. Different is good!

Change the world by acceptance, guidance, love, understanding, compassion and accountability.

Each step that is taken to create a better world is taken by YOU!

What do you want your life to look like?

Many times throughout my life, I found myself stuck on a path I wish I had never ventured onto. I knew something needed to change, but never understood how to get there. I felt empty, unhappy and could not explain why I was here again.
We use distractions in order to keep us from facing our real problems. The easiest thing to do when we are overwhelmed or stressed is to fall back into similar behaviors and routines.
Have you ever found yourself obsessing over what you thought was healthy and gave you a false sense of control. I know I have. I would start obsessing over my food and nutrition, working out, and then turn around and eat a container of ice cream, skip 4 out of 5 workouts and give up health and fitness completely, or for a few weeks anyway.
Stress and avoidance will keep you going back to the same place you have tried to avoid many times. You must learn to tune out all the noise and follow your heart. All the answers you need to solve any dilemma are inside of you.
If you find yourself continuing to move through life without direction and moving nowhere, it is time to stop spinning in circles. You will not be able to make wise life-changing decisions if you continue to spin. Trust me, I know this firsthand.
Ask yourself the following questions:
1. What do you want your life to look like?
2. Are you happy with where you are and what you have accomplished this far?
3. What needs to change now in order for you to be where you really want to go?
4. What are you doing to make your dreams your reality?
Whatever your answers are, trust yourself. Write them down and get out there and do all of the things that are missing from your answers.
Seriously think about this: what do you want your life to look like? Take out all of the negative thoughts that are preventing you from reaching your highest potential. You will find out soon enough, those visions and dreams are now your reality.
Be humble with your success and continue moving forward with a grateful heart. Count your blessings every day. Don’t ever take one person, place, or thing for granted. Continue to dream big, and most importantly, follow your dreams!
If you are not happy, take all necessary steps to change this. There are plenty of circumstances out of our control, death is one of them. However, if your health, job, or relationships are stressing you out and making you miserable, change it! Yes, change the situation and watch the outcome be in your favor.
Don’t just quit your job before you have secured another, but if you are not doing what you really love, you will find yourself dreading each day. Your stress levels will rise preventing you from enjoying life. Stop thinking you are not good enough or worthy enough to do your dream job, because I am telling you, YOU are!
But…….Is it really your job you hate? Or, is it something else?
If you find yourself in a relationship that no longer has meaning or purpose, get out of it. Yes, that’s right, walk away and move forward. Toxic and unhealthy relationships will alter your overall well-being and use an energy source required for a healthy life. When you waste your time and energy on negative people, places, or things, you will hit a dead end each time. You will have nothing left to give yourself or others who are on your side. You find yourself spinning in all directions once again without a clear vision of the future.
If you want to lose weight and make healthier food choices, do it! Stop thinking about it, do it! It will take work and movement. Lazy will not be an option when it comes to exercise. Excuses will not get results.
Do everything that is required to make a positive change!
If you are on the wrong path, get off. Follow your heart. One step at a time in the right direction is one step closer to living your dream!
When you align your actions with your dreams, everything you do will magnetize you in their direction.
Dreams do come true when you follow that path that leads directly to them!
Chara