Warning readers; The word “Jesus” is used in the following post!
Think before you speak!
Sometimes what we say, we really don’t mean, or we say things when we are angry, sad or having an off day that may shock and hurt the people around you.
Have you ever wished you could take something back that you have said to someone? I am sure ALL of you have regretted certain conversations or verbal outbursts on another at some point throughout your life.
Readers, keep in mind, there will be times that others say things to you or in front of you that will make you feel uncomfortable. We now have a social media gateway for people to do and say whatever they want. It is quite disturbing if you ask me. I no longer scroll though my news feed feeling inspired, I feel sad for many, hopeful for others and pray for the hateful.
Remember this; sometimes what they say really means something else. I know, I know, it doesn’t make it easier but keep reading.
When we are misinformed, fearful and uncertain about a person or situation, we may participate in a verbal attack before we have made the time to count to ten, calm down, and think before we speak.
Our children are listening to everything. They are a product of what they are around and what they hear from you. Keep in mind, how they will process angry words is much different than how an adult will.
Many times what we are feeling does not come out the right way. We are reacting and may not understand why the words are spilling out in a way that will shock our listeners. Or worse, we may be fully aware and do it anyway! Have respect, honor everyone and everything.
Here is a great example!
My aunt sent this email to me a few months ago, reminding me how our words may really mean something completely different to us, but still make others feel uncomfortable.
This is a conversation my Uncle Scott overheard from me, who was four years old at the time, with my two year old sister, driving home from an outing.
To my sister, love you! LOl!
Message from my aunt:
“Hey Chara. Quick story. You were four years old and uncle Scott, my brother, was watching you. You said “F&*%” he said “what did you say?” You said “F$*%??!!” He said “Chara Lynne Kilby WHAT did you just say?” Your little chin wobbled and you said “I said Jesus loves all the little children!”
I remember this conversation I was having with my two year old sister at the time. I was venting to her and this was a word a chose to use. However, once it was brought to my attention that is was a bad word, I automatically reversed the conversation to a softer version of what I really should have said. I didn’t know what the “F” word meant, I was only repeating it. However, my family did a great job, especially my Nina (grandmother), bringing Jesus into my life before I was even born. So I knew who exactly who he was at a very young age.
Wouldn’t this be AWESOME, if we could switch gears as adults? If we could take back what we had previously said and replace it with a word or sentence that will make the person you are speaking to feel good? Unfortunately we can NOT. SO think before you speak because what you say can have a serious impact on all those around you.
Try to pause when you are fearful, hurt or angry, speak once you have counted to 10 and always use your words wisely. We live with so many regrets as it is, words will stick and you can NEVER take them back. Facebook is not the place for war and arguments, hate and anger, it is a place to be inspired, love, and be motivated.
Come on people STOP clogging up our news feed with negativity. Break the cycle today!