These 15 truths will put you in control of your life.

Learning and understanding these 15 truths will put you in control of your life.

1. Everyone you know and love is going to die.

2. You are responsible for your own happiness and success.

3. Everything good and bad will come to an end.

4. Be realistic when setting your goals. Have a plan and have ambition. Never give up.

5. Figure it out, find a way or do not complain.

6. Accept ALL things you can not change. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow is never guaranteed, and right now is up to you.

7. Love and cherish those who are good to you. Move on and forget the ones who hurt you. You are responsible for who you allow to enter into your mind. Surround yourself with individuals who make you a better person.

8. Never allow hateful, negative people into your life. Respectfully decline all of their attempts.

9. You are not less than or better than the person standing next to you.

10. You will never find happiness searching for it in another person. Happiness begins with you. You will be greatly disappointed when you rely on another for your own happiness.

11. Exercise your mind, body and soul and feed and nourish them well.

12. Be kind.

13. Be grateful.

14. Count your blessings every single day.

15. Forgive.

Warning readers; The word “Jesus” is used in the following post!

Warning readers; The word “Jesus” is used in the following post!
Think before you speak!
Sometimes what we say, we really don’t mean, or we say things when we are angry, sad or having an off day that may shock and hurt the people around you.
Have you ever wished you could take something back that you have said to someone? I am sure ALL of you have regretted certain conversations or verbal outbursts on another at some point throughout your life.
Readers, keep in mind, there will be times that others say things to you or in front of you that will make you feel uncomfortable. We now have a social media gateway for people to do and say whatever they want. It is quite disturbing if you ask me. I no longer scroll though my news feed feeling inspired, I feel sad for many, hopeful for others and pray for the hateful.
Remember this; sometimes what they say really means something else. I know, I know, it doesn’t make it easier but keep reading.
When we are misinformed, fearful and uncertain about a person or situation, we may participate in a verbal attack before we have made the time to count to ten, calm down, and think before we speak.
Our children are listening to everything. They are a product of what they are around and what they hear from you. Keep in mind, how they will process angry words is much different than how an adult will.
Many times what we are feeling does not come out the right way. We are reacting and may not understand why the words are spilling out in a way that will shock our listeners. Or worse, we may be fully aware and do it anyway! Have respect, honor everyone and everything.
Here is a great example!
My aunt sent this email to me a few months ago, reminding me how our words may really mean something completely different to us, but still make others feel uncomfortable.
This is a conversation my Uncle Scott overheard from me, who was four years old at the time, with my two year old sister, driving home from an outing.
To my sister, love you! LOl!
Message from my aunt:
“Hey Chara. Quick story. You were four years old and uncle Scott, my brother, was watching you. You said “F&*%” he said “what did you say?” You said “F$*%??!!” He said “Chara Lynne Kilby WHAT did you just say?” Your little chin wobbled and you said “I said Jesus loves all the little children!”
I remember this conversation I was having with my two year old sister at the time. I was venting to her and this was a word a chose to use. However, once it was brought to my attention that is was a bad word, I automatically reversed the conversation to a softer version of what I really should have said. I didn’t know what the “F” word meant, I was only repeating it. However, my family did a great job, especially my Nina (grandmother), bringing Jesus into my life before I was even born. So I knew who exactly who he was at a very young age.
Wouldn’t this be AWESOME, if we could switch gears as adults? If we could take back what we had previously said and replace it with a word or sentence that will make the person you are speaking to feel good? Unfortunately we can NOT. SO think before you speak because what you say can have a serious impact on all those around you.
Try to pause when you are fearful, hurt or angry, speak once you have counted to 10 and always use your words wisely. We live with so many regrets as it is, words will stick and you can NEVER take them back. Facebook is not the place for war and arguments, hate and anger, it is a place to be inspired, love, and be motivated.
Come on people STOP clogging up our news feed with negativity. Break the cycle today!
Chara

Seek Clarity, Refuse Avoidance, and Get Uncomfortable

Be honest with yourself, remember, real life won’t change, but what is possible will!
We may not have control of where our stories originated from, but we ALL have the power to change the ending!
I used to wonder, “If I don’t know where I am going, how do I know where to begin?”
I knew in order for me to get myself unstuck, I needed to seek clarity, refuse avoidance, and get uncomfortable. The uncertainty caused confusion and hesitation of entering the unknown. Change is never easy, but if the changes you are making will make you a better person, you must take all necessary steps to understand what you need to do to make this happen.
Think of it this way: if you were to write your story, and put it into a book, don’t focus on the punctuation, place your energy into writing one sentence at a time and correct any mistakes later. This applies to all major changes or goals you’re going for. Mistakes are inevitable, so be prepared to fix them.
Write one sentence at a time, take it one day at a time. I would be lying if I told you this will be easy, but giving up is no longer your option.
Aim for the ending you have envisioned for as long as you can remember. Trust me when I tell you, nothing is impossible!