Don’t waste another day living with an overabundance of “junk.”

Most of us have a junk drawer in our homes that are full of clutter. It is the place where we put our mess so we can hide it from people when they come over.

Most people also have a “junk drawer” in their lives that is full of clutter. This is the place where you put the “messy” things in your life that you don’t want others to see because we are afraid of what they will think. The clutter that fills our minds can prevent us from reaching our highest potential.

The difference is that the junk in the drawer in our homes will not come out and try to derail you from success or happiness. The junk in your life can continually appear and cause anxiety, stress, heartache, and depression.

If you want to move forward towards happiness you have to empty the junk drawer of your life. You have to put behind you any past failures, doubt, and pain that has affected you this far. You must move forward with forgiveness and personal freedom. This can be hard at times, but it is a requirement in order to be really happy.

One very important reminder; You can not and will not EVER change the past or anything that has come before today. Good or bad, these events are a reminder to all of us that we all have imperfect things we wish we could go back and do over. But this is not possible. In order to stop causing ourselves emotional stress from guilt, you must learn to let go.  A positive attitude, forgiveness, and doing better everyday, will free up most of the “clutter”.

Remember you are in charge of your thoughts and how you view previous events! YOU have the power to change anything that is holding you back from being what you were truly meant to be, AWESOME!

A few years ago I had the Serenity Prayer tattooed on my left shoulder to help remind me that everything is going to be just fine as long as I keep working and never stop believing anything is possible no matter where I started from!  “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.”

If you are hanging on to offense, it is time to let go and to forgive. If you are hanging on to failures, you have to let them go. If you’re hanging on to pride, you have to become humble. Being humble is one of the hardest things a person will do. This means admitting you were wrong, accepting a situation is not what you expected, realizing not everyone lives and or thinks the same way you do. Acceptance is when you become humble.

Once you break free, your life will expand and make room for healthy growth and positive progress in areas such as family, spirituality, friendships, success, fitness and nutrition. Don’t waste another day living with an overabundance of “junk.” Make room for a life filled with love, peace, and healthy relationships.


Fragments of time or “snapshots” of a moment are brief and do not give the entire picture of who a person is as a whole.

Who do you think the person standing next to you in the grocery store line is? Who do you think the person that just raced past you in the street is? Who do you think you are? Who do you think I am?

Fragments of time or “snapshots” of a moment are brief and do not give the entire picture of who a person is as a whole. If you saw me yesterday standing in line rolling my eyes at the person in front of me, or two days ago stopped by the side of the road to “rescue” a dog, or last night laughing at my husband so hard I had tears rolling down my cheeks, or yesterday arguing with my 11 year old about which binder was suitable to buy for 5th grade, these are just moments. These are not a description of who we really are. Yet, we judge each other because of them.

We can’t take in the entire picture of every single person we don’t know and craft a story about what we believe them to be about.

Judgement isn’t always about viewing someone in a negative way. It can also be creating a fantasy around their lives based on snap shots of brief moments we see. Or, more accurately, what we think we see.

How many times do we look at social media with an envy of a life that seems so perfect? The perfect family, smiling faces, perfect relationships and endless fun. Is that your constant reality? It’s definitely not mine.

Below is a photo of my son and me, being silly, not a care in the world, making memories and just being in the moment. What you can not see is how long it took to get dressed, put on our snow gear and how long it took to finally get out the door.

Before this photo was taken, we were laughing so hard at my son and his funny personality. But, after the photo, when it was time to come inside and peel off all those layers, that certainly did not consist of laughing, smiles nor was it fun. However, two very different moments not captured, so how can you think you know ALL circumstances of anyone’s life based on one picture posted on social media?

My point is this: I have purposefully designed a life that has meaning and purpose. I try to make the best of each day and create memories for my children that they will cherish into their adult years.

However, that doesn’t mean I get out of bed every day with a smile and eager to step into my “perfect” day.
I may wake feeling happy. I may wake feeling tired, anxious or depressed. Either way, I’m not defined by it.

I’m not ‘good’ and I’m not ‘bad’. I’m just a human. I feel a variety of emotions. Please don’t base your opinion on my life based on any photo I may post on any of my social media sites!

It’s not realistic to ask ourselves never to judge anyone again. To never create a story around how fabulous/awful/amazing someone is from the thirty second window from which we viewed them. But perhaps we need to keep in mind that it is just a snapshot. It may even be a series of snapshots. Perhaps a whole album. But it’s unlikely to be the whole story.

I mess up, I make mistakes and I don’t always get it right, but I no longer dwell on it. I look for the lesson and then I move on. I’m not interested in repeatedly punishing myself. How does that serve me? How does self punishment serve any of us? If we focus on acceptance and tolerance, then we can make a difference. If we focus on criticizing others, then we stay stuck and we all suffer.

Just accept that you’re going to screw up sometimes and so is everybody else. Nobody is worse than or better than you. Different, maybe, but that’s OK. Different is good!

Change the world by acceptance, guidance, love, understanding, compassion and accountability.

Each step that is taken to create a better world is taken by YOU!

These 15 truths will put you in control of your life.

Learning and understanding these 15 truths will put you in control of your life.

1. Everyone you know and love is going to die.

2. You are responsible for your own happiness and success.

3. Everything good and bad will come to an end.

4. Be realistic when setting your goals. Have a plan and have ambition. Never give up.

5. Figure it out, find a way or do not complain.

6. Accept ALL things you can not change. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow is never guaranteed, and right now is up to you.

7. Love and cherish those who are good to you. Move on and forget the ones who hurt you. You are responsible for who you allow to enter into your mind. Surround yourself with individuals who make you a better person.

8. Never allow hateful, negative people into your life. Respectfully decline all of their attempts.

9. You are not less than or better than the person standing next to you.

10. You will never find happiness searching for it in another person. Happiness begins with you. You will be greatly disappointed when you rely on another for your own happiness.

11. Exercise your mind, body and soul and feed and nourish them well.

12. Be kind.

13. Be grateful.

14. Count your blessings every single day.

15. Forgive.

Move Forward With Your Ego Intact and Your Self-Worth Undamaged by Following These Steps

“When you judge another, you do not define them; you define yourself as someone who needs judged.”

In today’s turbulent times there is judgment, ridicule and defacement. Why? Because it has been allowed, justified and continued by way too many people in recent years.

When we put ourselves out there, in the public eye, we are immediately judged by people with a different point of view, who are misinformed, stubborn, jealous or just hateful.

You must understand that arguing with everyone who disagrees with you is not the answer to solving the world’s current problems. Your opinion will NEVER change another person’s rooted beliefs. So why do some still continue to make attempts on conforming those around them making attempts FORCING others believe the way they do? Some will never accept that the world consists of humans from all walks of life, carrying various beliefs and knowledge. Learn to accept this respectfully!

Those who continue to search for arguments believe that judgment is the only way to win their personal battles. It gives a sense of empowerment that has never been present in their previous life. Whatever you do, don’t fight back. This does not mean what you believe is not worth validation. This simply means you are wise enough to know the difference in what will create positive change in the world, and what will eventually destroy it!

What we fail to understand:if the fighting amongst us continues, we are subjecting ourselves to bigger unimaginable disasters!

In order to move forward with your self-worth undamaged and your ego intact follow these few tips:

1. Never respond when you are offended by someone.

When you respond because you took what another person has said personally, you respond using your defense mechanisms and it ALWAYS ends badly. You won’t get your point across, and some really enjoy a good argument. They will always need to have the last word, even when they are wrong. Avoid spewing out verbal attacks, and NEVER respond to hateful, judgmental, people.

2. If someone targets you specifically, ignore them. NEVER respond when you are angry.

When we are angry we lose our filters. We say things to protect ourselves, but it makes matters much worse. We continue adding fuel to a burning fire that will eventually destroy everything around us.

PUT THE FIRE OUT! Don’t add fuel to it! Repair the damage by not fighting back, allow the flames to diminish. Who wants to live in a thick cloud of smoke? I certainly do not. You can breathe much easier when the air is clean and you can see things for what they really are!

3. Say “thank you”.

If you warrant a person’s opinion of you and you have given them the opportunity to judge you, accept the challenge by saying “thank you”. You may not agree with the criticism, but thanking them will give you the ability to respond without arguing, and it will throw them completely off their game.

If you are looking for a good fight, join a boxing class!

We may not agree with one another, but we all have to share the same universe and it is up to YOU to make this a safe place to live!

Warning readers; The word “Jesus” is used in the following post!

Warning readers; The word “Jesus” is used in the following post!
Think before you speak!
Sometimes what we say, we really don’t mean, or we say things when we are angry, sad or having an off day that may shock and hurt the people around you.
Have you ever wished you could take something back that you have said to someone? I am sure ALL of you have regretted certain conversations or verbal outbursts on another at some point throughout your life.
Readers, keep in mind, there will be times that others say things to you or in front of you that will make you feel uncomfortable. We now have a social media gateway for people to do and say whatever they want. It is quite disturbing if you ask me. I no longer scroll though my news feed feeling inspired, I feel sad for many, hopeful for others and pray for the hateful.
Remember this; sometimes what they say really means something else. I know, I know, it doesn’t make it easier but keep reading.
When we are misinformed, fearful and uncertain about a person or situation, we may participate in a verbal attack before we have made the time to count to ten, calm down, and think before we speak.
Our children are listening to everything. They are a product of what they are around and what they hear from you. Keep in mind, how they will process angry words is much different than how an adult will.
Many times what we are feeling does not come out the right way. We are reacting and may not understand why the words are spilling out in a way that will shock our listeners. Or worse, we may be fully aware and do it anyway! Have respect, honor everyone and everything.
Here is a great example!
My aunt sent this email to me a few months ago, reminding me how our words may really mean something completely different to us, but still make others feel uncomfortable.
This is a conversation my Uncle Scott overheard from me, who was four years old at the time, with my two year old sister, driving home from an outing.
To my sister, love you! LOl!
Message from my aunt:
“Hey Chara. Quick story. You were four years old and uncle Scott, my brother, was watching you. You said “F&*%” he said “what did you say?” You said “F$*%??!!” He said “Chara Lynne Kilby WHAT did you just say?” Your little chin wobbled and you said “I said Jesus loves all the little children!”
I remember this conversation I was having with my two year old sister at the time. I was venting to her and this was a word a chose to use. However, once it was brought to my attention that is was a bad word, I automatically reversed the conversation to a softer version of what I really should have said. I didn’t know what the “F” word meant, I was only repeating it. However, my family did a great job, especially my Nina (grandmother), bringing Jesus into my life before I was even born. So I knew who exactly who he was at a very young age.
Wouldn’t this be AWESOME, if we could switch gears as adults? If we could take back what we had previously said and replace it with a word or sentence that will make the person you are speaking to feel good? Unfortunately we can NOT. SO think before you speak because what you say can have a serious impact on all those around you.
Try to pause when you are fearful, hurt or angry, speak once you have counted to 10 and always use your words wisely. We live with so many regrets as it is, words will stick and you can NEVER take them back. Facebook is not the place for war and arguments, hate and anger, it is a place to be inspired, love, and be motivated.
Come on people STOP clogging up our news feed with negativity. Break the cycle today!

Recovering, Celine Dion

This song is a beautiful reminder to all who are recovering.

As a person who suffers from PTSD, a smell or image can trigger a bad memory, sending your thought process into a downward spiral. Negative thoughts and memories can enter into your mind and destroy the outcome of your day at any given moment. There is never any warning.

You must remember, those memories are just that. Those situations that hurt you, can never hurt you again, unless you allow them to consume your thought process. Find a safe way to process them and immediately participate in a healthy activity. For me it is running. Running is more than exercise, somedays, it is my therapy.

You may not be a runner and that is fine, pick up a pen and piece of paper, and write. You will be amazed by how healing this is. GO for a walk, whatever it is that you do, make sure it is healthy and will help you understand the past events that hurt you are not welcome in your life.

Live with forgiveness, find a way to make peace, and let go of the past.

YOU are beautiful!



Remember, one day at a time.


Stop Fast -Forwarding Your Life

Stop Fast-Forwarding Your Life.
Enjoy the present moment, even when it is hard. As a matter of fact, enjoy every moment in this life, good and bad, because these moments will never happen again. No matter how hard you try to go back or fast-forward to a new day, right now is our only guarantee in this life!

Remember, the past is gone and the future is still uncertain. Live now because it may be all you ever have. Really think about that, and let it sink in. Now is all we have, nothing after is ever guaranteed. I say this often because it is reality. Tomorrow is never promised, yet we spend much of our time looking ahead to better things, when really our present moment will never happen again.

We spend our days, working, running our children here and there, preparing for tomorrow, next week and looking ahead to next month. It is great to organize and prepare, but don’t forget to be present and in the moment, especially with our children. The older my children become, the more this really sinks in.

Of course I am like many mothers who look back wishing they would have done things differently. Here are a few things I try not to dwell on as a parent.

  • Changing the past.
  • Wishing my kids were small again.
  • Wishing I had done things differently when they were little.
  • Looking ahead to any obstacles that may arise as my children grow into young adults.
  • Stop saying “what if”.

“While we try to teach our children about life, our children teach us what life is all about.”

I try not to look ahead at the “what ifs” and stay in the present moment with any loved one. What we have now is what matters the most. We will learn and grow as we get older, so be the best version of you right now.

Life is ironic and we will never fully understand it. It takes some of us to experience disaster, sadness, silence, absence, grief or loss to learn how to appreciate victory, happiness, noise, presence, and life. Always value what is right in front of you. Stop looking to the future or behind at the past, dwelling on old regrets speeding through the day wishing it would end and a new one would begin.

Here’s the thing: we are missing the awesome blessings standing right in front of us!

As tempting as it is to believe that the future is going to be all sunshine and rainbows, the truth is that it doesn’t get better in the future unless you make it so. Keep in mind, you will be the one to achieve the future you desire. You have to do the work to make it better, and that involves being here now.

Stop dwelling on your past, things that annoy you in your day-to-day life, or the fact that you’re miserable at your job, use them to grow and make decisions about what needs to change to make your life better right now.

When you learn to recognize what you already have, any additions will be a bonus.


4 Steps for Reaching Genuine Happiness and Success!

“The most valuable thing you can make is a mistake – you can’t learn anything from being perfect.” – Adam Osborne

I guess you could say I have made many mistakes throughout my life. I’ve spent the past few years learning, growing, and getting it right!
Pulling myself out of the chaos and confusion would become my primary goal in life. For once, I felt consequences, and aimed for victory! For as long as I can remember, I had big dreams.
Growing up and facing circumstances out of my control was never easy, but those situations would one day be the reason I was driven to pursue my dreams. I have discovered the secret to maintaining balance, harmony, and spiritual equilibrium. Can you guess what the most important component is to reaching these three things? YOU! Yes, that is right, every positive change will begin with You! I am going to show you why YOU are so very important to achieving great success.
It is safe to say I’ve always been driven by my dreams. For many years, these dreams were enough to get me through to the next day. I held on to hope for a better life. I longed to be a successful leader and advocate for health and fitness, and help others overcome all obstacles. What many discover, including myself, is that we are our greatest enemy. We are our own worst critic. We get in the way of achieving great success by how we view ourselves. Once we shift our thoughts, our lives begin to change.
What motivates you the most? Mine happens to be my spiritual connection, my wonderful husband and my three amazing kids! When I want to quit, I think of the above and I immediately gain momentum and strength to keep moving in a positive direction.
Over two decades I aspired to be a runner, fitness guru, expert in weight loss, and promote healthy nutrition and maintain optimal physical fitness to all of my clients. So I did. I placed most of my time, energy and resources into doing just that! Yet over time, the added stress, heartache, life disasters, unforeseen obstacles, and disappointments knocked me down more times than I can remember. But, I always got back up! Why? Because I wanted to!
Even if I did not jump right up, I got up, and I moved forward, learning and understanding from any recent failures. Nine times out of ten, most of my mistakes and failures could have been avoided, if I had shifted my focus and changed my thinking.
You see, the problem is, even when I was dreaming big, and following my gut, I was also living with a negative mindset, making mistake after mistake in my personal life.
But then it all changed. My mistakes became my life’s biggest lessons. This is were many of us screw up. We make a mistake, but we do not learn from it. We repeat this many times and these behaviors eventually change the outcome of our lives. Let’s face it, we are never prepared to lose the things we love the most, right? It may take losing everything before the lesson actually sinks in. Don’t repeat the mistake until it is too late. Take the lesson and use it to grow and change the behavior now! It is NEVER too late!
Fear held me back countless times throughout my life. I feared making mistakes, failure, rejection, and loss, but, believe it or not, I feared success, too. For many years, I set goals for myself – being a fitness advocate and creating programs that helped individuals reach their highest physical fitness level with nutrition and exercise programs that were challenging, yet effective. I had immersed myself for years, practicing, implementing, trial and errors, and studying. Studying and studying, oh and did I mention, studying? It was time to launch my programs to the online world!
You see, I knew I was capable of doing anything, all it took was hard work and dedication, but my previous mistakes were always on my mind. So, it took a little bit longer to get there. The more good I was doing, the more my confidence grew. My personal training business was doing great and now my fitness programs were taking off online and doing so much better than I ever imagined. Things were really taking a turn for the better. Victory and success weren’t just dreams, they had become my reality.
After a few years of having earning great success with my career, life hit again! Disaster struck, and I became ill with a virus of unknown origin. I began feeling sick, on and off, in the summer of 2015. This would continue for months and turned into constant fevers reaching 105-107°F by November.
I experienced flu-like symptoms several times over the course of five months.  Fatigue had consumed me, I was weak and tired all the time, running fevers at least twice a month. I went to a doctor, however the blood work came back normal. There were a few wrong diagnoses during this time, however, these would soon be corrected once I was hospitalized. As my health continued to decline of course so did my motivation.
November of that same year, my fever hit 105 and landed me in the hospital for several days.  My liver enzymes were dangerously high and the fevers continued to rise. The days in the hospital grew into a week, then two weeks. At one point my fever hit 107 and I was hallucinating and having seizures. The doctors were unable to get my fever down as my liver enzymes continued to rise.
The doctors told my husband to call the family in, things were not looking good. As I laid in the hospital bed, praying to God to keep me alive, I begged him for a another chance at life. I promised I would get it right! My fever would not break and I continued to pray and hold onto hope that I would turn the corner. I fought harder each day and always remembered my motivation, my spiritual connection to God, my husband, and my three children. I never gave up! I continued fighting and fighting to get better!
By the grace of God, I eventually pulled through this. It took months to recover and to this day, the doctors are not sure where the virus originated. Scary, right? Could this be a lesson?
This illness turned out to be a blessing. I dreamed even bigger than before and my passion for living a happy life soared! I remember one night, while in the hospital, praying and promising God, if I woke up and pulled through this, I was going to do great things and share my life story with the world. It was time to stop hiding from my past! My energy and focus for health and fitness were now being shared with an overwhelming passion to write a book!
I had hidden my childhood horrors most of my life, simply out of embarrassment, guilt, and shame. I felt the situations were isolated and I was the only one in the universe to experience these horrible things. Through intense therapy and making a conscious effort, I had forgiven most of the people who had harmed me. But I still had work to do. I wanted to reach out to those who had experienced similar heartache, become a beacon for those in need, and a messenger for the uneducated.
I now appreciate the fact that many have suffered through very similar disasters, abuse, and personal defeats like I did.
Over the months of healing and recuperating from this virus, I placed most of my free time, and energy into writing the book, Disguised Blessings. My dreams shifted into a new and unfamiliar part of my being. I continued to revisit a place I fought most of my life to avoid remembering. But I was driven to help people in a very different way.
Health and fitness is what I learned and knew so well. Sharing my story was uncomfortable, but would end up being the most liberating thing I could do.
As I continued exploring new emotions about releasing this information for the entire world to read, I was hesitant and reluctant to proceed.
I can remember thinking, If I had resources and a book like this many moons ago, things would have been much different. Being able to relate to another with similar experiences, would have helped me a great deal.
So, I moved forward, hitting roadblock after roadblock. I can not tell you how many times I pulled out of releasing Disguised Blessings. Fear consumed me, yet again. Fear of how this would affect my children, fear of exposing this and putting myself out there in such a way. I began to feel vulnerable, naked and embarrassed by the truth of my past and what happened to me as a child.  I was at a standstill with pursuing this dream for many months.
But then it happened, I gained the courage and strength to send the manuscript, allow the publishing process to take place and move forward knowing this book would help others and have a positive impact on everyone! I reminded myself: this was not about me, this was about all of you!
As I explored a variety of ideas, I discovered these very important steps. I noticed when I followed them, and remembered what motivated me the most, my family, I was immediately back on track and moving forward towards my desired destination. The steps helped me stay focused, learn from my previous mistakes, and continue following my dreams.
These are small shifts in mindset but with a powerful long-term success and happiness:
1. Step one: Self-love
Loving yourself is not selfish, it takes practice. Loving yourself is not a sign of vanity, it builds self-esteem and courage.
Loving yourself is one of the most giving and humble acts you can do for others. When you love yourself you are more likely to really give love and inspiration to others. It exudes one’s authentic self and it’s contagious!
Love is powerful.
Growing up, loving myself was obsolete. Once I discovered how critical this was in order for me to grow, I worked long and hard at doing so. Practice, practice, practice. Say nice things to yourself about yourself and positive and rewarding actions automatically follow.
I know, this sounds funny, but it really works! Who is comfortable talking to themselves about themselves? I certainly was not! But then I discovered how important this would be in reprogramming my thoughts.
Practice saying nice things about yourself out loud first. Then, look in the mirror and say the same things. You may giggle at first and feel uncomfortable, but keep practicing this exercise. Over time, it will get easier and you will gain an enormous amount of confidence and self-esteem.
2. Step two: Change your thinking
What we think, we become. This has put me at a standstill most of my life. I felt I was not worthy of anything good. Self destruction was my friend and I destroyed anything good. Bad things have a way of making us believe we are bad people. This is not true. Bad situations can alter our thoughts, but we must stand up and have the strength to avoid all negative thoughts that come into our minds.Our thoughts become our reality. We become what we think about the most. Shift your thoughts in a positive direction and you will notice an enormous amount of energy gained to drive you towards positive action!
Once I learned to how to love myself and changed my thinking, everything around me changed. The people I attracted, my circle of friends, my relationships, all of it changed in a positive way. My life changed drastically, for the better.
The bad things that happened to me as a child were not my fault. It took decades for me to understand this. However, the choices I made as an adult were my responsibility. I began to shift my thinking into a positive direction and great and wonderful things were transpiring. I no longer viewed the world as “bad”. I began to see all the good just by changing my thinking.
I stopped challenging all the good aspects of my life and I no longer tried to destroy them. I welcomed them, and was driven to keep going in the right direction. My personal training business blossomed into a very large community. My memoir was in the process of being published, and I felt liberated. Was it really possible to change my life after such disastrous events? Absolutely, and I am living proof this works!
3. Step three: Stop making excuses
Excuses are the stepping stone to failure and creating one’s very own failures. We will find every excuse not to change our current situations, even when we know we need to. Let’s face it, who likes change? Change is scary and we are all creatures of habit.
What we do over and over, we repeat. This works as a disadvantage, but will also work to your advantage.
If you want to lose weight, but you make every excuse not to workout, how will you accomplish this? If you want to eat better but won’t find the time to meal plan or cook, how will you accomplish this? You need to stop making excuses and do what is required in order to reach your goals.
If you suffer from any form of trauma, you must be willing to shift your focus into creating a life after the horror. Memories will remain, however, you must learn to immediately put those thoughts into a safe place and proceed forward with the understanding the past events can no longer hurt you. You are safe and you are in control of how your life will turn out. You are the most important part of healing. Find a safe and healthy way to react to those memories.
Examples: Journaling, exercise, yoga, meditation, art and painting. All of these things are great for the mental healing. Whatever works for you, make sure you use all resources to shift your energy when those memories invade your thoughts. Repeat healthy actions, over and over until they become habit. This will eventually take over and replace the bad habits you wish to make obsolete.
Everything we do and say is a choice! Choose to do the work and take action. If you want to accomplish success and reach your goals, what is stopping you? Get out there and do it!
4. Step Four: Balance
In my book Disguised Blessings, I explain seven tips on creating balance, harmony, and spiritual equilibrium.
It is so important to create balance in all areas of your life. Many of us focus on one or two things, placing all of our time and energy into these things and neglecting other very important components in our life.
For example: You want to lose weight, so you focus all of your time calculating calories, adding your nutrients, buying every vegetable in the aisle to make the healthy recipes you found online. You put everything into this and leave no room for a mistake in your plans.
But then it happens! You’re at a social gathering and you have a piece of cake. That is it! You tell yourself you’re a failure and the next day you quit your nutrition plan. All the food you bought rots and you throw it out. You now wasted valuable time, money and energy.
What if you create balance with your new meal plan? Give yourself freedom to have a few slips throughout the week. You must understand that you will fall off the wagon from time to time, and that is okay! Don’t stop or quit because you slipped a day or two. Who cares? There must be balance in everything we do. This goes for everything. Allow room to grow in all areas of your life.Relationships, career, yourself, fun activities, and so on.
When we take responsibility for ourselves, shift our focus, change the way we think, and balance life, we take control of our experiences and the outcome.
I know that it’s still an ongoing process for me, but I also know that by using these steps we can all deal with any situation we find ourselves in. That day I chose to take control of my life and step into the unknown, success and happiness was right behind me.
If you’re feeling tired and worn out, dig deep. Get up, shake off the negative and breathe in the positive. It takes strength and insane courage to get back up, but you can do this!
This is not about faking happiness, its about being real and true.
Getting to the point where you’re ready to change is what might take a little longer—but with the right steps it will happen.
“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.” – Unknown
This life is pretty damn amazing!

Pick up your copy of Disguised Blessings today. Now available in paperback and Kindle editions.