What do you want your life to look like?

Many times throughout my life, I found myself stuck on a path I wish I had never ventured onto. I knew something needed to change, but never understood how to get there. I felt empty, unhappy and could not explain why I was here again.
We use distractions in order to keep us from facing our real problems. The easiest thing to do when we are overwhelmed or stressed is to fall back into similar behaviors and routines.
Have you ever found yourself obsessing over what you thought was healthy and gave you a false sense of control. I know I have. I would start obsessing over my food and nutrition, working out, and then turn around and eat a container of ice cream, skip 4 out of 5 workouts and give up health and fitness completely, or for a few weeks anyway.
Stress and avoidance will keep you going back to the same place you have tried to avoid many times. You must learn to tune out all the noise and follow your heart. All the answers you need to solve any dilemma are inside of you.
If you find yourself continuing to move through life without direction and moving nowhere, it is time to stop spinning in circles. You will not be able to make wise life-changing decisions if you continue to spin. Trust me, I know this firsthand.
Ask yourself the following questions:
1. What do you want your life to look like?
2. Are you happy with where you are and what you have accomplished this far?
3. What needs to change now in order for you to be where you really want to go?
4. What are you doing to make your dreams your reality?
Whatever your answers are, trust yourself. Write them down and get out there and do all of the things that are missing from your answers.
Seriously think about this: what do you want your life to look like? Take out all of the negative thoughts that are preventing you from reaching your highest potential. You will find out soon enough, those visions and dreams are now your reality.
Be humble with your success and continue moving forward with a grateful heart. Count your blessings every day. Don’t ever take one person, place, or thing for granted. Continue to dream big, and most importantly, follow your dreams!
If you are not happy, take all necessary steps to change this. There are plenty of circumstances out of our control, death is one of them. However, if your health, job, or relationships are stressing you out and making you miserable, change it! Yes, change the situation and watch the outcome be in your favor.
Don’t just quit your job before you have secured another, but if you are not doing what you really love, you will find yourself dreading each day. Your stress levels will rise preventing you from enjoying life. Stop thinking you are not good enough or worthy enough to do your dream job, because I am telling you, YOU are!
But…….Is it really your job you hate? Or, is it something else?
If you find yourself in a relationship that no longer has meaning or purpose, get out of it. Yes, that’s right, walk away and move forward. Toxic and unhealthy relationships will alter your overall well-being and use an energy source required for a healthy life. When you waste your time and energy on negative people, places, or things, you will hit a dead end each time. You will have nothing left to give yourself or others who are on your side. You find yourself spinning in all directions once again without a clear vision of the future.
If you want to lose weight and make healthier food choices, do it! Stop thinking about it, do it! It will take work and movement. Lazy will not be an option when it comes to exercise. Excuses will not get results.
Do everything that is required to make a positive change!
If you are on the wrong path, get off. Follow your heart. One step at a time in the right direction is one step closer to living your dream!
When you align your actions with your dreams, everything you do will magnetize you in their direction.
Dreams do come true when you follow that path that leads directly to them!
Chara

Stop Fast -Forwarding Your Life

Stop Fast-Forwarding Your Life.
Enjoy the present moment, even when it is hard. As a matter of fact, enjoy every moment in this life, good and bad, because these moments will never happen again. No matter how hard you try to go back or fast-forward to a new day, right now is our only guarantee in this life!

Remember, the past is gone and the future is still uncertain. Live now because it may be all you ever have. Really think about that, and let it sink in. Now is all we have, nothing after is ever guaranteed. I say this often because it is reality. Tomorrow is never promised, yet we spend much of our time looking ahead to better things, when really our present moment will never happen again.

We spend our days, working, running our children here and there, preparing for tomorrow, next week and looking ahead to next month. It is great to organize and prepare, but don’t forget to be present and in the moment, especially with our children. The older my children become, the more this really sinks in.

Of course I am like many mothers who look back wishing they would have done things differently. Here are a few things I try not to dwell on as a parent.

  • Changing the past.
  • Wishing my kids were small again.
  • Wishing I had done things differently when they were little.
  • Looking ahead to any obstacles that may arise as my children grow into young adults.
  • Stop saying “what if”.

“While we try to teach our children about life, our children teach us what life is all about.”

I try not to look ahead at the “what ifs” and stay in the present moment with any loved one. What we have now is what matters the most. We will learn and grow as we get older, so be the best version of you right now.

Life is ironic and we will never fully understand it. It takes some of us to experience disaster, sadness, silence, absence, grief or loss to learn how to appreciate victory, happiness, noise, presence, and life. Always value what is right in front of you. Stop looking to the future or behind at the past, dwelling on old regrets speeding through the day wishing it would end and a new one would begin.

Here’s the thing: we are missing the awesome blessings standing right in front of us!

As tempting as it is to believe that the future is going to be all sunshine and rainbows, the truth is that it doesn’t get better in the future unless you make it so. Keep in mind, you will be the one to achieve the future you desire. You have to do the work to make it better, and that involves being here now.

Stop dwelling on your past, things that annoy you in your day-to-day life, or the fact that you’re miserable at your job, use them to grow and make decisions about what needs to change to make your life better right now.

When you learn to recognize what you already have, any additions will be a bonus.

Chara